I read a book by Sigmund Freud when I was 14 and hardly understood a word (libidinal cathexis…huh?) but I knew he was onto something. I mainly grew up reading mountains of mystery and detective stories… both kinds of books, I believe, point to my lifelong quest to discover & navigate the mysteries of the human spirit.
This quest has led me into some unusual places, both personally and professionally, where I have found myself “operating way over my head” and paying the price of lessons learned… from divorces, getting fired, feuding with family members, investing foolishly, trusting untrustworthy people, believing I was unworthy and being triggered countless times into unnecessary, urgent limbic reactivity.
My saving graces have been a high value for learning from my life experience, a rock-solid personal integrity, a sense of humor (particularly when it comes to myself) and a deep respect for what’s true and good in the world.
I’ve also been blessed with a brilliant wife who both loves me and tells me the truth. I highly recommend this combination.
As my mother said when she toasted my marriage to Kat, “Curtis, you are what we used to call a “Slow Learner”… but when you finally learn something, you get it right.”
Well, she’s my mother and knows me best… and I agree that I am finally “getting it right” with my marriage, my self worth, the value I deliver in my work and being a part of an amazing family and community. It’s a sweet and edgy place to be.
I have studied, trained and worked for many decades as a seeker of truth, a psychotherapist and a life & relationship coach.
Among my credits are the following:
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, a career that began with licensing in 1978 and continues as a lifelong learning and growing experience to this day. This is healing work.
Certified Professional CoActive Coach since 2001, working with individuals, relationships and families. This is creative, personal growth work.
ORSC – Organization & Relationship Systems Coach, since 2002, working with an executive or two and their teams. This is powerful work with the “third entity” that lives within systems.
Coaches Training Institute Leadership Program Graduate, since 2002, which began my journey on the road of intentional leadership, and has informed my leadership in roles such as:
Clinical Director of the Southern California area of the Counseling & Psychotherapy Center’s Sex Offender Treatment Program
President of the Board of Trustees for Unity of Ventura Church
President of the Board of Trustees for All Children Great & Small Preschool
Founding Board Member of the Los Angeles Chapter of the International Coach Federation
Father to Emily and Nathan and step-father to Laurel and Devon, perhaps the most important of all the roles I’ve taken on… flawed though I may be, my heart is always filled with love for these kids.
A man who has always followed a spiritual path in everything. Not religious… no dogma or judgmental crap… by spiritual I mean of high purpose… honoring core values like integrity, intimacy, laughter & illumination… surrendering to the wisdom of the human spirit, humbled by life’s continuous lessons… abiding by the invisible laws that govern our creativity and become the fabric of our life experience. What I call the “Uga Buga” stuff of life.